Radical vs. Possible

I like to change things. It is in my personality to not take what is handed to me as a given. This is not to say that I am a contrarian, but, rather, that I like the potential of something far more than I like its present reality.

What I always get stuck on, however, is how to get to that change I see.

On the one hand is what could be called radical change. This is the kind of change where what you do tomorrow looks nothing like it did today. The processes are different. The expectations are different. The rewards are different.

This is the kind of change I experienced each and every time my wife gave birth to another of our four boys. Yes, it was still parenting, but adding a new child into the mix made the situation completely different. People would say to us, “Yeah, but after a certain point, isn’t another kid just another kid?” To which we would respond, “No. Having another kid is having another kid.“*

This is also the kind of change that is foisted upon you. You have no control. You must change or you will cease to be relevant or effective. Not surprisingly, my efforts to force radical change were not successful. I could be ignored, but you can’t pretend like an economic collapse or a fire that destroys your church building isn’t happening. You change or you die.

On the other hand, there is incremental change. This is the kind of change where the differences between what we did yesterday and what we will do tomorrow are significant enough to be meaningful, but they somehow “make sense.”

When I first arrived at the church I previously served I made a few significant changes to the order of worship. I moved this here and that there, and I extended the “Children’s Time” to a full blown 10-15 minute liturgy that became a congregation wide favorite part of the service.

These were changes I could, and did, introduce. I didn’t ask. I just did. The key was that those changes, in some way, made sense. The congregation had a frame of reference for what was happening. They didn’t know why I moved the “Welcome and Announcements” from the top of the service to after the Confession, Assurance, and Passing of the Peace, but they were able to make it work because the pieces and parts somewhat resembled what they had known.

Too often, we (I know this is true for me) want the radical change. We want it to happen now. We want things to be different now. But all too often we sacrifice what is possible in our pursuit of what is radical.

Steven Johnson calls pursuing incremental change seeking out “the adjacent possible.” His contention is that all innovation is “the story of a gradual but relentless probing” of what could come next given the pieces and parts at our disposal. “Evolution advances,” he says in Where Good Ideas Come From, “by taking available resources and cobbling them together to create new uses.”

I take heart at this. You or I don’t have to come up with a completely unthought of idea in order for things to move forward. All we have to do is take a look at what we’ve got available to us and ask, “What could we do with this stuff?”

 

*Yes, four sons. Comedian Jim Gaffigan recently tweeted, “Do you want to know what it’s like to have a 4th child? Imagine you’re drowning and someone hands you a 4th child.” Too true. Too. True.

For the Time Being

For several years now, I have had the following as the signature of my personal email:

“To do what is difficult all one’s days as if it were easy, that is faith.”

It is a line from W.H. Auden’s long form poem “For the Time Being: A Christmas Oratorio,” specifically from the monologue of the character of Joseph. It has become something of a personal motto, for it reminds a person like me that my natural tendency to turn and run for comfort is not usually what God intendeds.

From what I understand (and the subtitle supports this), Auden intended for this work to be read aloud sometime after Christmas. For a few years, I read a portion as the sermon on the Sunday after Christmas. It was a favorite worship idea of mine.

The video linked below is 87 minutes long, but I can guarantee you they will be some of the best 87 minutes you’ll spend today.

Enjoy.

W.H. Auden’s “For the Time Being” – A concernt performance from A New Theatre of Sound

I’m (not) going paperless

NOTE: I’ve gotten a bit of push back for the use of the word “you” in this post. Some have pointed out the presumptuous nature of the word. I think they are right. While I concede that, I do want to maintain that “going digital” has screwed many of us up. I’ll try to be a little more careful next time.

Second NOTE: Upon further reflection, the presence of the word “you,” the most common objection, was used as a literary device and, I think, fully appropriate. While it is always beneficial to be aware of one’s communication tendencies, I will also choose to assume a high level of self-awareness on the part of readers and will hold them responsible for their own interaction with whatever text they are reading.

I’d like to introduce you to my new Midori Traveler’s Notebook. It’s really a pretty beautiful thingy, this notebook, and it represents my return to organizing my thoughts, tasks, and schedule using pen and paper. I got the “radial datebook” and little modification inspirations from Patrick at Scription.

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I tried for a long time to be a digital boy. I am obviously a fan of technology, but I have found that I do better when I’m writing things down by hand. About two months ago, I tried out another digital system. I bought a tablet that had a stylus you could write with, but… Oh, the balls I dropped. I needed to go back.

Here’s the thing: There is real and there is not real. Pen and paper are real. Digital is not.

Digital is bits and bites. It’s an idea. It’s an abstraction. when something is created digitally, it doesn’t actually exist. I think this was the essence of my problem. When I tried to work solely with a digital workflow, I think my subconscious knew that what I was manipulating wasn’t actually real. And this is saying something, coming from an abstract guy like me.

But the pen and paper… Those are real things. Sure, they may be symbols of other things, but they are real. My to do list can never be deleted. It can only be completed. I can’t erase something, only cross it out.

This is a spiritual thing for me, dealing with the real. My life – your life – is too full already to deal with things that aren’t real. What’s the point?

I know, I know. Some of you will claim that you do “just fine” organizing your life digitally and that I should stop acting like an old fogey and go back to being the “open source guy” who celebrated technological innovation. The thing is, open source is about making sure things work.

Friends, there’s a whole lot of us doing things that aren’t working.

I don’t believe you when you tell me that you can organize your life digitally. I know you, and I read about your stress all the time on Twitter and Facebook. I see how much stuff you try to cram into your day. A lot of you are cranky because of it. I know I am when I try to live by the digital code. It sucks.

So here’s what I want you to do: On Monday, instead of firing up your OmniMuiltiThingFocus program to start the race to see how many boxes you can click, just ask yourself “What are three things I need to do today?” Write them down on a piece of paper or a note card and do them. One at a time.

Cause, really, most of you reading this are pastors, and the people you serve deserve to have a servant who models daily Sabbath and simplicity. We all know you’re good enough and capable enough, but we’re tired of you modeling unhealthy behavior.

Psalm 127:1-2

1 Unless the Lord builds the house,
   those who build it labour in vain.
Unless the Lord guards the city,
   the guard keeps watch in vain.
2 It is in vain that you rise up early
   and go late to rest,
eating the bread of anxious toil;
   for he gives sleep to his beloved.

The Spirituality of the ESFP

What are they like?

Consider the facets of the ESFP’s personality:

Extroverted – they gain energy from external sources

Sensing – they are attuned to the details of life

Feeling – they make judgements based on the way they feel about a given situation

Perceiving – they are not rigid, but willing to “go with the flow”

ESFPs are some of the most fun people on the planet!  They are spontaneous and optimistic. They are upbeat and caring.  They love people and people love them (However, beware an ESFP who has been crossed – they will dig deep and resent you!).

They do tend to be overwhelmed easily when stress and negativity are brought to bear.  In these moments, because they “do not feel good or right,” the ESFP has a tendency to simplistically explain things away in order to return the balance of life to something that feels more right.

Where do they find value in their religious life?

Unsurprisingly, ESFPs are drawn to opportunities to be with others (what most churches call “fellowship”).  Given their appreciation for beauty, worship can be a meaningful time, but most would rather skip quickly through that and head straight for the cookies and punch to catch up with their friends.

If their are church outings of a social nature, expect an ESFP to be in charge!

What practices help them stay balanced and centered in God?

As with many Extroverted Sensing types, acts of service provide the ESFP with a chance to relate to the world in a way that also brings them joy and happiness.  They resonate with Jesus’ love of children and can find great satisfaction in providing meaningful experiences for children.

What practices push them to go beyond themselves and sacrifice for others?

Being so closely related to the ESFJ, the ESFP would benefit from many of the same practices.  Although they have caring for others built into the very fabric of their very being, the challenge for them comes with the reality that such a large part of their personality is externally focused and feeling based.  If not balanced, this results in a sense of right and wrong that is not entirely “grounded” – by this I mean that the main filter through which they view the world is whether or not something feels comfortable.  As we know, many situations in life which are right do not feel comfortable.

The solution for this is practices which allow them to challenge and analyze the way things initially appear to them.  Journaling, coupled with the practice of The Examen are excellent individual practices.  Debriefing with another person who views things differently is an example of a corporate practice.

The Spirituality of the ENFP

What are they Like?

ENFPs are the bright, warm, and loving people who will talk with you all day long. They see possibilities around every corner, and have an incredible ability to help others see and become excited about them as well.

They do not do “maintenance” well (or at all, if they had their way) and, although they seem to be flitting from one thing to the next, they are actually staying true to both their internal value system and need for an exciting life.

Where do they find value in their religious life?

For the ENFP, value is found with people.  They are highly skilled at developing inter-personal relationships, and can “read” someone with in moments of meeting them.  This allows them to bring out the best in others as well as find the acceptance that they long for.

What practices help them stay balanced and centered in God?

Any practice which allows them to be in relationship with another will allow the ENFP to remain balanced.  They rely heavily on Christianity as an ethical/relational faith.

What practices push them to go beyond themselves and sacrifice for others?

ENFPs are not strong “finishers.” As intense feelers, they often leave a project when they’re not “feeling it.”  Somehow, they need to cultivate an ability to acknoweledge, yet not succumb, to those impulses.

I always suggest contemplative prayer and meditation in these moments, which allows us to see the fleeting nature of our emotions.

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